Sexual Assault and the Healing Power of Words: Why Lamothe Law Firm Chooses “Survivor” Over “Victim”
Sexually violent crimes (such as assault and rape) are some of the most horrific—yet underreported—crimes in the United States. According to statistics from RAINN, anywhere from 63% to 75.1% of assaults are never reported. Fear of retaliation or not being believed, embarrassment, mistrust of law enforcement, and shame are some of the many reasons for silence.
One way to shift this mentality (and encourage more reporting) is to change the way we talk about sexual violence. In particular, the labels we use to describe those who have been forced to endure these acts. The right words show respect to individuals affected by these crimes and can significantly impact mental, physical, and social changes.
“Victim” or “Survivor”: Which Word To Use When Talking About Sexual Assault?
The two words most often used to describe individuals affected by sexually violent crimes are “victim” and “survivor.”
Historically, “victim” was the preferred choice. But unfortunately, this label connotes permanent damage and makes many of those affected by these crimes feel powerless, with limited or no options for justice or healing. As a result, many have shifted towards the more empowering label: “survivor.”
Unlike “victim,” “survivor” acknowledges a person’s trauma while emphasizing their strength, resilience, and bravery. It empowers people to speak up, seek justice, and take control of their healing process.
While both definitions accurately reflect how people experience and recover from sexual violence, we at Lamothe Law Firm choose to use “survivor” because of its ability to empower, heal, and promote social change. This slight linguistic shift can change the entire direction of post-sexual assault healing. Someone recovering from sexual violence may find it to be an empowering tool.
A Term That Promotes Healing
Individuals who experience sexual violence often have a hard time talking about it. There’s a stigma attached to it. Many struggle with guilt or shame. Others worry they won’t be believed or that friends and loved ones will look at them differently. Most just want to forget about it, and so for many, it’s easier to stay silent.
As discussed in a Psychology Today article earlier this year, words have power. They shape our thoughts and actions and help us make sense of what happens to us. By not talking about something, we deny ourselves a much-needed support system and increase the physical stress and strain on our bodies. As neuroscience research shows, using words that heal and empower (such as “survivor”) can help reduce that stress and help our brains form new neural pathways, speeding up our physical and mental healing process.
Words That Change Societal Perception
Unfortunately, the word “victim” hasn’t been the best vehicle to drive social change. Rather than encouraging society to rally behind those affected by these acts, this word has created a culture of tiptoeing around the issue. It turned sexual violence into something we instinctively wanted to hide, rather than fight. (As if using a word somehow made it contagious.)
However, choosing terminology like “survivor” helps change those social perceptions. Inclusive and empowering language helps break down the harmful stereotypes that keep us from having the right conversations about sexual violence. It promotes societal change, increasing awareness and dismantling harmful narratives, thereby decreasing the chances of future sexual violence.
When “Victim” Is the Right Choice
The word “survivor” has many mental, physical, and social benefits for those healing from sexual violence. However, language is not a “one-size-fits-all” situation, and “survivor” isn’t the right choice for every situation.
In a January 2024 study, university students indicated they would hesitate to adopt the word “survivor” for every situation because of its potentially harmful implications; specifically, it could accidentally reduce the severity of sexual violence in the public mind, making it more difficult to pursue justice.
When choosing terminology, it’s essential to consider vital points like this. Because sometimes, the word “victim” is more appropriate than “survivor.” Here’s a closer look.
In the Immediate Aftermath: During the time immediately after an assault, “victim” is probably more appropriate than “survivor.” “Victim” acknowledges the harm suffered, without imposing any expectations of resilience or recovery. This can be freeing for someone still reeling from trauma, strongly emphasizing that the event was not their fault.
A Legal or Medical Context: Legal and medical processes use the word “victim” because it clearly establishes the commission of a crime. A successful prosecution relies on precision and accuracy, so it’s important not to leave any room for misinterpretation.
Statistical Research: Statistical research is another area where precise language is essential. If the terminology is ambiguous, studies aimed at documenting criminal statistics or sexual violence may not be as accurate. “Victim” provides clear, objective language that the research points to criminal acts.
Personal Preference: Perhaps the most crucial consideration in the terminology debate is: what is the individual’s personal preference? Healing from rape and sexual assault is an incredibly personal process. Everything from how and when a person heals to their preferred terminology is highly subjective and personalized. Not only do these preferences differ between individuals, but they can also change and evolve, depending on the stage of the person’s journey.
The best way to show respect and deference to someone who has experienced these horrific crimes is to honor their choice.
Do You Have Questions About Sexual Violence in Louisiana?
Sexual assault crimes are some of the most heinous in our society. These acts rob individuals of their autonomy and agency and leave them with emotional and psychological wounds that often surpass any physical scars.
If you were raped or sexually assaulted in Louisiana and are wondering what to do next, we want to hear from you. Contact Lamothe Law Firm today for a free consultation and let our team of highly experienced attorneys help you pursue justice with the compassion and deference your story deserves.
